First, because I do not want this excellent commentary missed or forgotten or diluted by being placed at the end of this silliness, here.
That is brillantly written. It’s hard for me to make philosophical and moral arguments clearly, and it’s damn near impossible for me to make any argument at all concisely, but this is what I’ve been saying from the beginning.
He is trash. His behavior and his words betray that he is trash. And if anyone can’t see that, then I’d like to propose that they need to brutally evaluate whether it’s possible that they are unable to recognize trashiness around themselves as well.
Oh, dear. That’s not going to go over well at all.
Second, here is a fun little Minchin song that investigates more subtly abusive language and logic that many of us tend to let slip by unnoticed.
Notice when people are trying to treat you like shit and tell you it’s your own fault. It happens more often than you may realize, and those who are the most guilty of narcissistic abuse are the ones who don’t recognize it as such.
Think critically about what people say to you.
Nothing that’s done to you is “what you made” that person do. It’s what they chose to do.
And you don’t have to meet a set of arbitrary behavioral standards to prove you love someone. The manifestations of unconditional love are simple, and universal.